Facebook

Have you ever looked for something that was a friend on your friend list and suddenly, they aren’t there, and you don’t know why. Well, this recently happened to me, and I am not certain why this person has now blocked me from seeing any of their posts.

On Facebook, there are different ways that you can deal with someone that seems to be sending out all posts. It is nice that there are options on what you see when everyone that you are friends with.

Unfollow

This feature is when you want to still be friends with someone, but you don’t want to see all their posts. I know that I have used this for a couple of friends that were just posting random things, and it was filling up my feed with nothing that was meaningful. You can also use this feature if a person has a different opinion on things than you do and just need a bit of a break from seeing that feed.

Unfriend

Here is the next step, and that is when you no longer want to see anything that this person posts, and you don’t consider them a friend any longer. If you change your mind and want to friend this person again, it is relatively easy as you just send them a friend request again. This is a normal way of handling when you don’t want to be friends with someone any longer.

Block

Here is the final thing that you can do and that is to block a person and by doing this they cannot message you, and they cannot see anything that you post at all. Normally I only use this when someone has done something, and I don’t want them to try and contact me through Facebook again.

 

For some people, I think they use the block too quickly when just unfriending someone is all that is needed to be done. If you have your Facebook set up that only friends can see your posts, then simply unfriending someone is all you need to do. If you happen to block someone, and you may be able to unblock them if you go into your settings and activity log and connections. You look under friends, there is an area for blocked and that will show you who you have blocked and when.

Having lots of friends on Facebook can be a bit of a challenge but remember you don’t have to live on Facebook all the time and no one should expect you to immediately see their posts in your feed or immediately answer a message that they send you.

Being a friend

A friend is someone that is there for you no matter what. You will have a bond with that person and sometimes you will find how much of a friend that person was after it’s too late.

Recently I found out that a person that I went to an event with each month passed away suddenly and that is when it really hit me how much of a friend I considered her. She was someone that I could talk to and laugh with and it didn’t matter how I was feeling she was always there to help me feel better about things. She always had a smile on her face even when things weren’t going perfect for her.

Over the last few days I am have thinking about her and remembering all the little silly things that have happened when the two of us were together. No we wouldn’t spend lots of time together but most months there were the three or four hours where we could talk and laugh. Actually the laughing was something that really did happen a lot and sometimes over the silliest things which was great. When she wasn’t at the event the laughs just didn’t seem to happen as freely and I know a lot of others noticed it as well.

I saw her on the 8^th of February and of course we had the normal laughs and said we would see each other next month which was March 8^th. I later found out that I wouldn’t be going to the event because of another commitment but I knew that in April we would sit, talk and laugh like normal. Now I am sitting and thinking about going in April and realizing that it isn’t going to be the same but I will work on making sure that I remember her in my own way because that is how I am going to deal with the lose of her.

Since hearing of her passing I have done quite a bit of thinking and remembering about all of our silly conversations. Even when I am not really focused on the overall thinking little things pop into my head and I smile and laugh about them. The last time we saw each other we were discussing a colour of fabric that I should use for a project that I was going to start. I didn’t want to go too dark because I don’t know the final design yet as it is a mystery but of course she was telling me that I needed to go darker than I went. I have been working on this project since hearing of her passing and while sitting and stitching one evening I heard a voice say “You should have done it on black and then it would have looked like a chalkboard.” This made me smile because I could hear her saying that exact thing to me so now I think I will do the project again on black so it will look like a chalkboard.

Friends are there for her no matter what and I know I am not the only one feeling the lose as she had a couple of very close friends that I know are dealing with it in their way. For me the time I spend stitching right now is how I am dealing with her passing because stitching was one of her passions and I know she would want me to keep stitching.