Tuesday, May 21, 2024

Don't be afraid of being you

Something that we all must do is make sure that we are true to who we are. Sure, there are times when we must show a bit of a different side of us, but in general, we must show who we are to the rest of the world. Of course, I am not saying that we have to yell and scream the look at me idea, but we need to ensure that people see who the true you is.

It is important that we also make sure that we love what we are doing for our job. It can be a challenge to find a job that suits you perfectly, but making sure that you can at least have some aspects that you enjoy is good. There are things that we don’t enjoy in every job but making sure that between work and home you are able to do the things that you love doing. If you are a person that loves talking to others, it’s important that you can do that in some form.

If you have a goofy side, you need to show it sometimes. I don’t mean show it during an important meeting, but people that you spend time with need to see that you do have a sense of humour. Quite a while ago, I surprised someone with a little fun voice that I would sometimes use. The person was shocked, but very happy that I had that side of me that I hadn’t shown them before. Being able to enjoy things is important, and knowing you can show a goofy side to others is important.

One thing that I make sure that I do is to dress to who I am. I am not a person that you will see in dresses or skirts most of the time. For me, I am comfortable in either jeans or casual pants and t-shirts, golf shirts or simple tops. I also make a point of making sure that I do have my favourite colour as part of my wardrobe, so don’t be surprised if you see me wearing something teal.

If people don’t like you for who you are, then they aren’t worth the friendship. You can’t try and please everyone because if you are doing that there is a chance you aren’t pleasing yourself and is that friendship worth it. We need to accept that each person is different and make sure that we accept each other for who we are.

Being able to be you is extremely important, and it is what makes you happen when you get up in the morning and when you are around people. Sure there are going to be people that don’t like some of what you say or do but remember making sure you are happy with who is are is important. You need to be able to look in the mirror and say, “I am being who I am, and I am happy with that person.”

Tuesday, May 14, 2024

I miss the coffee shops

Something that has changed, at least for us, is the number of coffee shops that are available where you can sit and do a bit of work during the day. Prior to the pandemic, there were so many different coffee shops where you could either grab your computer or a notebook or tablet, and you could sit and get some work done. Being able to sit and work on things was so nice, and it is something that I have missed because so many of the locations that we went to have now closed, which is very disappointing.

What we had the habit of doing is taking our computers a couple of times a month and going to a coffee shop and buying some coffee (normally more than one cup each) and sitting and working on the various things that needed our attention. Being at a coffee shop also meant that we were sitting together and were able to discuss things, which also was nice. When you work in a home office, there are quite often hours that you don’t see the other person as we are both working on our separate things.

Something that has helped me get over the lack of coffee shops is figuring out the different spots at home where I can get some writing done. I sometimes will either grab my tablet or my journal book and go into a different spot at home and try and do the writing there. It does help some, and something else we do is we grab our laptops and sit together for a few hours and work on the things that we want to discuss. We also just sit in the same area and work on our own tasks, but at least we are close together when we need to discuss something.

Sure, being able to just work at home is great because the cost of the coffee is a lot cheaper, but it also means that you don’t have the different environment and for someone that does a lot of writing, the change in scenery can make a big different to how much writing I can get done. Being able to find a different location to sit and write every now and again does help a lot. I do know that when we take our car in for an oil change, I can be found sitting and writing at one of the tables there.

Yes, the number of coffee shops have decreased but making sure that you can find the different places to sit and get work done is important. Of course, if you are going to be using a food court as a location to get some work done, make sure that you are also considerate when it gets busy and maybe that is the time to take that break and let someone else use the table.

Tuesday, May 7, 2024


Here are the rules for Fireworks in Toronto

The Fireworks Bylaw regulates the use and sale of fireworks in Toronto.

Fireworks are only permitted on your private property on Victoria Day and Canada Day until 11 p.m.  A permit is required to set off fireworks on all other days.

Fireworks are banned in City parks and on beaches. Do not set off fireworks in a street, a parking lot, on balconies or any private property that is not your own.

Contact 311 to report the use of fireworks in a City park or beach, illegal sale and possible misuse of fireworks.

You are only allowed to use consumer fireworks on your private property two days a year. Consumer fireworks include low hazard fireworks for recreation, such as fireworks showers, fountains, golden rain, lawn lights, pinwheels, Roman candles, volcanoes, sparklers, and other similar devices.

You can set off consumer fireworks on your own private property until 11 p.m. on:

  • Victoria Day
  • Canada Day (July 1)


Here is what really happens, at least around where we live, and I can imagine it happens in a lot of other areas as well. Fireworks are set off in parks, parking lots, on the street and even off balconies, and they are set off at all times of day and night and from noon until anytime in the middle of the night, like 3am or 5am fireworks are being set off. The fireworks are also set off not just on those two specific days as they are set off on New Year’s Eve, and any other day that someone thinks fireworks are needed.

The bylaw clearly starts that fireworks must be set in a bucket with sand, but that doesn’t happen, at least around us. People simply place the fireworks on the ground and light them, and if they fall over, it doesn’t seem to matter to the people setting them off. Also, in some cases people are actually holding the fireworks in their hand and setting them off, which is extremely dangerous.

The City of Brampton has now passed a bylaw that you can no longer set off or sell fireworks in the City of Brampton. It is going to be interesting to see how that works, but it would be nice to have it here in Toronto as well.

An idea to help control fireworks

  • To purchase any fireworks, you must provide proof of owning the property, photo identification.
  • No cash sales, (debit or credit only)
  • If you are caught selling to minors, there is a big fine.
  • You must live within the area of where you are buying the fireworks and own the property.
  • Sellers must display regional approval to sell fireworks, so better control on who actually sells the items, not just something in a truck on the side of the road.
  • If you don’t see a permit, call the local bylaw enforcement to question if this business is allowed to sell fireworks.
  • Sales of fireworks should only be sold the day of and the seven days immediately before the specified allowed dates.

Fireworks are nice to see, but it is very important that they are set off properly and are complying with the bylaws of the area that you are in. So, when it’s time to see some fireworks, why not make it easy on yourself and just go to a place where they are being set off by professionals and enjoy them. Fireworks are nice to see, but being woken up in the middle of the night isn’t fun, and not everyone enjoys hearing them.

Tuesday, April 30, 2024


When I tell people that I like writing, they look at me like how can someone enjoy sitting and writing? Well, for me, it is quite simple as it is something that I like doing, and it makes me happy. For me, sitting either at my computer or using my tablet for notes and simply writing on paper, I enjoy getting the various notes down.

For me, writing can be an escape from what is going on around me, especially when I sit and work on some of the little stories that I have been trying to move forward. These little story ideas that I have gives me a chance to explore different thoughts and ideas, and maybe one day I will have some stories that I will post somewhere. It would be nice if I could find some more time to focus on the stories because I have some that are slowly getting moved forward while others are just sitting with little notes made. One day, I will work on these stories and will see what happens to each of them.

I do enjoy writing for work and that is something that helps others. I am a trainer and documentor, so that means I am writing the different courses and manuals, as well as guidelines. It makes me happy when I can someone understand and learn from what I have been able to write. When I am talking to someone in the IT profession, and I mention, and I love writing, they really look at me odd because most people in IT don’t like writing documentation.

Another way that I get to enjoy my writing is through the different blogs that I write. When I look at the amount of writing that I do, it makes me happy. I have two blogs that I write, and they are both different as one is craft related and the other one is this blog. I then also write for our company blog, so that is again written differently. It makes me happy to see that I can write blogs and each of them have a different focus.

Writing is something that makes me happy and when I can’t sit and get the words out of my head, I start to get frustrated because I know that there are words that just wanting to come out. One thing that I have found that helps me get more writing done is to put my ear buds in without any music playing, and it gives me the quiet that I need sometimes to get the words flowing again. 

Writing for me is something that I enjoy doing and if I can assist someone by teaching them something or even getting to think differently about something I am happy. Write to me is what I do and if people can’t understand why I love doing this, it’s ok because at least I know I am doing what makes me happy.