I belong to a number of groups on Facebook, and I have noticed something that bothers me, and it is how people start off their comments or questions.
Some of the groups that I belong to are for cross stitch and crocheting as I enjoy both of these crafts and I have seen something that bothers me.
Cross stitch group – Ladies, can you give me some advice
Why do you need to put “ladies” in the statement, why can’t it be “I need some advice.”
What is funny about this group is that this group is run by a couple, and this has happened in other cross stitch groups. If you need to ask a question, just ask it and don’t add the ladies or girls or anything like that. I have seen this same type of comment in most of the cross stitch groups, and it is sometimes funny when one of the men ask if they are allowed to answer the question.
Crochet group – Girls, I need your help
Girls were not necessary as in this group there are quite a few men, and it is run by two men, so why do you have to add the word “Girls” to the start of the statement.
This is something that I have noticed quite often, and it is amazing how some people figure that crafting is only for women. I know that I watch some FlossTube on YouTube and I have subscribed to 5 male stitches as I enjoy what they work on. I know that even when I was growing up, one of my uncles did needlepoint, and he was very good at it.
When you are going to ask a question in a group or even leave a comment, remember that unless you know everyone that is in the group, you should be ensuring it is a gender-neutral comment/question. I know that I have got upset when I have seen this type of opening and would like to correct the person because I think it could really hurt some people, especially if they are having a rotten day and this just puts them down.
So, when you are on social media member that we don’t always need to start with Ladies, Girls, etc. It is ok to just ask for the advice or leave that comment.