Being excluded

There are times when being excluded can have a negative impact on a person and that isn’t good.

If you are having events where only certain individuals are to be included here are a few tips to ensure that others don’t feel like they are being excluded for maybe the wrong reasons.

1. Don’t talk about the event like it was something that everyone was invited to attend.
2. When asked about the event be honest if everyone can attend or if it just for a specific group of individuals.
3. If you don’t want specific individuals to know about the event don’t talk about the events in front of other individuals.
4. Don’t give reasons why you think an individual may not attend if you don’t know the answer. Don’t use that they don’t drive or they live too far away as reasons for not inviting them.

These are just some of the tips that I would suggest that you remember when you are talking about various get togethers. Sure it might be difficult for everyone to make it to each of the get togethers but at least give the individuals the opportunity to say yes or not and don’t exclude them for reasons you think why they may not attend. Just making sure that everyone feels that they are welcome is very important because when this doesn’t happen you will start to find out who true friends are.

I understand that for me there are challenges of making some events especially ones that are during the week and either during the day or in the evenings. I have had to be very selective of the events during the week that I attend but on weekends that is a different story. Most weekends it wouldn’t be difficult for me to get to various areas in the city or even to areas just outside the city. I think a lot of people are in my similar situation and that doing things in the evenings can be a challenge because of work and family life.

So next time when you are planning an event and you don’t think the person will attend, why not ask them anyway. They may be able to attend and if not they will give you the reason that they can’t that time. Also remember if they can’t attend once that might be due to a previous commitment so try a couple more times and see what happens. Don’t exclude someone just because you think they won’t attend as you might be very surprised. Another point to remember is that if you don’t want an individual at the event don’t keep talking about the events around them because that just shows how inconsiderate you really are.